Friday, November 14, 2014
A Question of Title
I don't know how many others have experienced this, or how many people knew this about me, but I had such a hard time in the beginning referring to my husband as Master. It was one of the most uncomfortable things I have ever had to make myself say. Later, when He insisted on me calling Him Daddy, well that certainly didn't come any easier, probably harder in all honesty.
I'm so glad one of my readers asked me about this the other day. He explained that his sub was very shy about calling him Master and he was wondering if I had ever felt this way. This is absolutely something I can relate to and his question made me really stop and think about the reason why.
First off, as a child, I wasn't raised to use a names of respect such as Sir or Ma'am for anyone. There were times my father would command me to call him Sir, but that was only when He was in a foul mood or mad at me. So...like any normal kid, I was pretty much like efff that! The way I looked at it, he had done little as a father to earn my respect and Sir WAS NOT coming out of my mouth just because he wanted to put me in my place at that particular moment.
So, I know for me, respect plays a big part.
However, I think the biggest hurdle I had to overcome was that verbal acknowledgement of having a lower status. It was one thing for Him dominate me, humiliate me, and even say it himself but it was another for me to set my pride aside and say it myself.
So what finally made it easier?
Well mostly writing it here in my blog. Being forced to say it over and over again in the bedroom, when I was most vulnerable and pliable. also helped. And really, I had called Him by His name or some other term of endearment for 20 years. So learning to call Him something different just took time.
Outside the bedroom though...He just isn't one to be overly concerned with titles.
Thank you for the question!