Monday, January 12, 2015

Life Hurts

 
This was a tough weekend in our house. Helping a daughter go through that first horrible break-up is one way to turn everyone's life upside down.

It's gut-wrenching to watch your child experience the kind of lying, betrayal, and pain that relationships can often bring.  As a naive 18 year old, she has the most trusting soul and really sees only the good in people.

The worst part...Daddy and I knew this guy's story from the day we met him.  As we watched her fall fast, we warned her about his type and the road that lay ahead, knowing there was nothing we could do except wait for the pieces to fall. 

In the end, our warnings peaked her curiosity enough to seek the truth. And then, she was left to make the toughest decision in her life so far.

But it doesn't feel any better when your child calls sobbing and choking out the words "you were right".  Picking up the fragile pieces of your child's broken heart...well it just sucks.  

Her and I spent a lot of time together this weekend.  In between the bouts of crying, there was a lot of talking and plenty of movie watching.  But it was Daddy's conversation with her last night that seemed to help the most. It wasn't a comfortable conversation for Him, I'm sure.  He tends to leave the love and relationship stuff to me.

But He has such a way with all of us. He is our strength and stability when we need it most.  And I honestly don't know what we would ever do without Him.

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  1. These lessons are tough, but best she learns them when you're both there to offer support.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Yes, we have all certainly been there at one time or another haven't we? Hugs to you

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  2. So nice that she has the both of you to help her.

    How do you stop yourself from kicking that boys butt?!

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    1. Thanks Misty. Believe me...it's taken everything we have to not do exactly that!!

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  3. Such is life growing up. We've all been there. Even so, it is heartbreaking to see one's daughter (or son for that matter) learn to deal with a broken heart. Such a lovely story little girl. Luckily for you daughter she lives in a house with loving, devoted parents.

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    1. Oh, we sure have been there at one point or another! It's just hard to watch and feel helpless. Our son was never as open with us about such matters but we've gone through different heartaches with him. And thank you...I know we aren't perfect parents but we do try to just love them with all our hearts.

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  4. LG I'm so sorry. It is really hard to see sit back and watch it happen. Your daughter is so very lucky to be surrounded by love and two have two parents there for her at this very difficult time. First love - now that's the hardest to get over. Hugs.

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    1. Thanks SGT. First loves can be the worst and now we're not even sure that it's completely finished. I just hope that she can stay strong and not be tempted by his smooth talking ways.

      xo

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    2. Oh my. Went through that several times with our young lady. She became so codependent despite how crappy they treated her. Hopefully your daughter will stay strong, It's so hard at that age. Hoping for the best. :-)

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    3. Oh...I'm so sorry to hear that. I assume they eventually wake up?

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  5. Your story missed the part where he mentioned that as an additional punishment her story is to be published on her blog for everyone to see.

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