When I first decided to surrender to my husband, I could have sworn that I possessed a more dominant personality and was merely working to make myself be submissive.
Voila! Then the light bulb went off. Well, it really wasn't that easy but I now realize and accept that I was submissive all along. It just took letting go of some very controlling behaviors to recognize my true nature.
Let's talk about how this relates to my work. I spent 15 years trying to climb the ladder, driven to achieve promotion after promotion, ultimately vying for the management position in my office. I wanted the responsibility, to be in charge, make all the decisions, and do things MY way.
Three years ago, my dream came true. Except...it's not so much a dream anymore.
It took a while for me to get to this point but in my home life, I find that I am much happier not being in control and not having to make all the decisions. That realization has brought about a lot of reflection in how I feel about being a manager. I can be assertive and make decisions in any aspect of my life that I need to. The problem is...now I just don't want to.
If I had to guess, my manager is a dominant, which is probably why we work together so well. I yield to his authority with no problem. Not saying that I won't disagree with him when necessary, but ultimately, he is in charge and I am ok with that.
As for the people that work for me, I deal with a great group of professional people that do their job and do it very well. They make me look good, so in turn, I support them and make them look good.
But there are always one or two that just test your patience. This person continually tries to buck authority and feels their way is always right. I admit, I hate conflict and I am not a quick thinker when put on the spot. This makes for some challenging situations.
I find myself saying more and more....I wish I could just go back to being responsible for my little corner of the universe.
Do you find that submission has changed how you feel in other aspects of your life?